Hey everyone, Alex here with a bit of a problem. Have you ever had a friend who you were REALLY close with change a whole ton? Like, change so much that you don’t really know them anymore?
That’s what I realized today: April has changed.
April came over to my house this morning and she was totally pumped to spend the day together. I was really glad to see her – until she told me what we were going to do. She said she wanted to hit the mall for some new clothes, makeup, perfume and all sorts of other stuff. I said that I was more interested in going to the park or museum and then maybe having some ice cream, but she said that was baby stuff and she wasn’t really into ice cream anymore.
How can you not be into ice cream?
Anyway, we went to the mall and I spent the ENTIRE day following her from store to store, watching her try on different outfits. Most of the time, it was like I wasn’t even there –she didn’t say anything to me other than “Carry this bag, would you?”
I told her that I was ready for a break, and asked if we could go to the food court for lunch. She started to tell me how bad the food was for me, and that we could eat when we got back to my house.
Which happened THREE HOURS LATER!
I was not too happy, to put it quite mildly. I was hungry. And grumpy. When I got back to my house, I microwaved some pizza and offered April a slice. She said she’d prefer a banana and some carrot sticks. I managed to find both, and she ate them, while wrinkling her nose at my pizza (which was delicious, by the way).
She asked if I had anything interesting planned for us to do that evening, and I told her about a play that was on at the Henrietta Hippo Theater.
She said that plays are boring and she didn’t want to go.
At that point, she whipped out her cell phone and started texting someone. She started laughing and then told me she made other plans for the evening. She said she’d stop by tomorrow and maybe we could go back to the mall.
I can’t believe it. Where is the exciting April I used to know? Who is this monkey and what has she done with my former best friend?
“Who is this monkey and what has she done with my former best friend?” …lol kinda reminds me of Matilda the Monkey. Anyways, seems like April turned more into a girl. well alex she didn’t change, she just grew up. like everyone does.
bunnycarrothunter1 – I think April has not grown up. I do think she has changed. To be grown up doesn’t mean that you expect someone else to do only what you want to do, and at the end of the day tell them you have other plans and you aren’t going to do what they would like because “it’s boring”. That’s not being grown up. That’s being selfish, in my opinion.
I’m sorry, Alex. You spent the whole day doing what she wanted to do and then got told she wasn’t going to go to the play you had planned for because plays are boring. Girls might mature earlier than boys, but that’s not maturity. Maybe you can talk with April and tell her you value her friendship, but friendship takes understanding and compromise.
One word: OUCH!
Wait a minute. How could she change so much without you expecting it? In the article “April’s Visit,” you said that you emailed “all the time.” How could it be such a surprise? Oh, well. I hope it works out okay.
Sparky, girls go through personality changes as they get older they usually aren’t interested in plays or museums OR ice cream which I being older still prefer ice cream, until they reach adulthood, but sparky she’s YOUR guest so you’re going to have to do what SHE wants I know it’s tough…… Sorry Sparks ;( ~ATeenageWolf <\3
Poor Alex.
@lovepupppygirl- agreed…. he needs to hang with stoogles for a day….. ya know???
Alex, I feel for you, however girls do change. Mabye you should start hanging out guys more often.
Hey Alex; i am 15 and am a TOTAL girly girl…… ask her if she wants to ride horses with you or something…………. i cant understand the “NOT INTO ICECREAM” thing, or pizza, or making plans with someone else……… friendships are a give and take; unfortuanetly i tend do most of the giving as well, so i know how u feel.
i was first comment!
If I were Alex,I’d find something we’d both like to do and then do that with April.
This has happened to me. I feel your pain. Sometimes you just need to talk with them. Remind April of her former self, and maybe it will come out to play. It’s gonna work out!
thats to bad. maybe you can comprimise! sorry about my spelling!
Hopefully they can compromise. It’s just kinda funny ‘cuz April sound like my friends and me. ;)
People Change, alot. I changed a couple times. From shy girl, to nice girl, to fun girl, to my true self. Wow, shopping? Don’t get me wrong, I love shoping but its not an everyday hobby! My friends and I are all different, so try to find something you all like. For us its ice skating and going to the park! But saldy, Alex, it seems you haven’t got a single thing in common. Try to talk to her about it.
April sure changed a lot! I’m guessing she doesn’t know. But Alex, people change. Friends change too. My former best friend changed a lot to some shopping fiasco. I stopped being friends with her cuz now all she wants from me is my credit card and some money. I found 3 other friends though, that suit me better! ♥
You need to tell April how silly she’s acting, and tell her that if she won’t act normal.
@ kittycat, thats ok we all make spelling problems somtimes! :D Wow I seriously don’t know whats wrong with your bff, Alex. Well maybe she is now a full,100% girly girl (unlike me). Well I am a little bit of a tomboy and a little bit of a femine girl (like my cat, Cammy). Well maybe you just need to tell her what you think about he new ‘attitude’. ~Azula Tiger
If I was Alex, the next morning I would tell April that I’m not going to the mall again, and how could you not like ice cream? -Smiley Face :)
Aw Alex. April’s just growing up and she doesn’t know you’re still the same Alex. Compromise with her or something! ~*Star Shine*~