Dear Plumpy,
Sara and I have been best friends since kindergarten. We see each other every single day and she’s pretty much like my sister. Or she WAS, until Natalie moved in. Natalie is Sara’s new neighbor – and now it seems like she’s her BFF too! Ever since Natalie arrived, Sara has been hanging out with her more and more. Last week, Sara and I were going to go to a movie – and she brought NATALIE along with her! I miss my best friend and I want her back. How do I get rid of Natalie?
- The One and Only
Dear TOO,
I’ve got some news you probably won’t want to hear – you can’t get rid of Natalie – nor should you try. You didn’t say anything about Natalie being mean or snobby or anything like that, so I’m going to assume she’s a nice girl. If you trust Sara’s judgment (and you should, she’s your best friend), she probably saw a good person in Natalie and decided to befriend her. Why not give Natalie a chance? You might find that you have a lot in common with her, too. You might just make yourself another good friend.
If you ever want to do something with Sara (and Sara only), be polite and ask Sara if she could just come by herself – tell her it’s best friend time and you just want to hang out with her. If Sara is as awesome as you say, she’ll definitely understand.
One more thing: Natalie isn’t taking your place. She’s her own person and will have her own friendship with Sara, and that doesn’t change YOUR friendship with Sara. As you and Sara get older, you’re going to meet more and more friends – and that’s good! You can always keep in touch with each other and stay friends forever – while also having other pals to hang out with.
Good luck!
Love,
Plumpy
i think i know exactly what happened and i feel her pain! i was 5 when i moved here and my next door neighbor Kristen was my bff. i am 12 and we have been friends ever sense, but now Molly has moved in and has replaced me. Kristen and i normally do every thing together and now Molly took her. i tried to be her friend, but i just do not like her. what should i do?
sadgirl-
That happened to me too, except it wasn’t a neighbor moving in. I have two best friends. We went to school together for 8+ years. When we started going to different schools, one of my friends seemed like she was talking and doing stuff with me less and less. I’ve tried calling her, email, facebook, everything! So I guess the only thing I can do is just see what happens. I guess both of our friends will look back and see a great friend that they let pass by.
I am so sorry….. don’t be sad…. I feel your pain as well and I am only 9 years old I have a friend named Rebecca and she and I have been friends sence my 2nd year of dance and I got ditched…… by Alena!!!!!! :-( Now Rebecca has been mean to me sence the day they have met and now I am helpless and I don’t know what to do……… thank you for talking to me….. :-(
I have this BFF and it seems like I’m getting left out by another girl. School ended yesterday so we had a pizza I have this BFF and theres another girl taking my place. School ended June 8 so my class had a pizza party a few days before and I had no friend because the other girl sat next to her. So I had to sit by myself . Same thing at recess.
Sincerely,
ginger54
MY FRIEND AND I WERE BFFS SENSE KINDERGARTEN AND SHE IS MY ON OFF BFF I TOLD MY MOM AND MY MOM DOSENT WANT ME TO BE FRIENDS AGAIN
plumpy is right, you can make more and more friends as you get older.
It’s not an easy lesson to learn~ but if ur Dad works construction, it is one u get to learn alot. But then u get pen pals which is really nice too! :)
I have had troubles with my BFF and I need some advice. I just moved and Im scared to go to a new school and have to worry about my BFF findingnew friends and not hanging out with me any more. What should I do? – 19spottie
Hey 19Spottie, would u like to be my friend? I have had to move a lot too, it IS scary, but u end up with loads of new good friends! Be nice, be happy and the friends will value u 4 who U are! :)
that’s good advice pinetreelane. i hav moved a lot too and every time i’ve made the mistake of not talking to the other kids. i couldn’t make friends for a while. my bff”s all came up to me first. we r moving again and this time i’m using your advice. there’s no way i’m gonna make that mistake again!
heres what you do: make it so that sara knows what you want. my friend – it seemed lik e she was leaving me out b-cuz she was w\ another girl and not including any-1 else. but i talked to her about it and we are good friendz.
YOU SHOULD JUST TELL YOUR BEST FRIEND HOW YOU FEEL
That is very good advice. It could come in handy now that my and my BFF live in different states.
I think the whole BFF thing is just a big popularity game. Its not cool to your other friends when you do that.
Not always Shadow Star. ( Wow, you are so orignal to use ‘star. ) I have my BFF because we understand each other. Also, we are BFF’s because we are ”good girls”. Most other kids say bad words, I don’t hang out with those kind of girls.
Thanks Josie for the compliment! -Moonstar*
moonstar, this is advice and comments for one and only, not your friend status. stay focused ;)
Hey! I was NOT going off topic! I was just telling Shadow Star something!! You are the one who should stay focused!! -Moonstar♥♥♥
hahaha!!! this is entertaining!! Shadow Star what is ur username? mine is ConstanceContraire!!
-*Poppydawn*
i’m sorry, i didn’t mean to offend you. really, i’m so sorry i did. i do agree with you though.
It is ok Anonymous. Sorry I said you were off topic, my actions came stronger than I wanted.
Poppyfrost, you are making me flare up. . .
Flareclaw, lets go. Silvermoon, get Silverwing and go back to camp. -Moonstar♥♥♥
thanks for apologizing moonstar, but you didn’t hav to. you had every right to get mad at me. totally my fault. thanks for forgiving me! hey, are you a warriors fan?
( I used to be Silverstar untill people coppied me, about 6 people coppied me. Now I want to see if I can be Silverstar or will people still copy me. )
I am a Warriors fan! My Warrior name is Swiftclaw! It is ok, next time I will make sure if it is a joke! -Silverstar♣♣♣♣♣
This is entertaining! but i think that anonymous meant that one comment as a joke to moonstar because it has a little winky face, ya know. my friends and i do that to each other like say something that could b taken as a mean comment but then they wink like its a joke.was it a joke anonymous?
hey i said it was entertaining and i got yelled at :(! Sorry Moonstar, I didnt mean to hurt your feelings :(
– A Hurt and Yelled at Poppydawn :(
btw the sorry message is for moonstar. i’m really sorry i hurt your feelings. and for the people who were wondering, it was a joke, my friends and i do that too and i didn’t kno it sounded so bad. i feel so awful. i’m really srry moonstar.
-anonymous
guys guys, calm down. this is webkinz, everyone likes everyone. everyone is friends. and i agree, i think anonymous’s comment was a joke. but it did sound kinda bad though.
hey Moonstar i didnt mean to offend you i probably shouldnt have commented on that so i am sorry but would you please apologize for making fun of my name? i was wrong to be mean but you did not have to make fun of me. ;,( We were both wrong so let’s just virtually hug and make up :)
this is a great example of friendship ups and downs. all friends have problems but what you do is exactly what you guys are doing, say srry and hug and make up.
Aww, that was good advice :)
I feel bad 4 The One and Only.
i fell sorry for the One and Only…i dislike it when freinds do that
which advice? the advice from webkinz STAR ;)? If it is that advice i so agree. the very same thing happened with me so i used their advice and it worked! my bff turned really mean but the girl who i thought was taking her away, turned out to b my best friend. thank you webkinz STAR ;)
Aw, how sweet! Poor Natalie!
Ok, here are my problems with that advice: Your friendship needs to be happy. If Natalie makes you unhappy, then you need to do something about it. You don’t want to be in a friendship where you are unhappy and feel left out.
Natalie kinda is taking your place. Because, you said that she is taking Natalie to your get togethers and they hang out alot. That means you are spending less time with Sarah. I suggest tell your parents. When I told mine, they understood exactly what I was going through. Make sure Sarah understands how you feel. -Moonstar*
Wow, you have a point Moonstar. Natalie is making the girl feel unhappy. That should fit into the category: Fix Problem in Friendship.
Luv,
Jandi96
In my mind, it’s okay to have a close circle of friends, but a BEST friend isn’t always a good idea. Your other friends might think you’re playing favorites, and nobody wants to hear, “Sorry, you’re not my BEST friend.”-*Dawnstar*
i disagree with both moonstar and jandi96. i am sorry but you need to remember, not only her happiness counts, sara’s and natalie’s happiness does too. my advice, find a compromise, become friends with both sara and natalie. don’t get rid of natalie, embrace her moving here. you never know, she could turn into the friend that you keep forever.
Oh this is like exactly what is happening to me. When my best friend and I went to our new school, she met another girl who I actually like. She’s not mean, but she’s definitely taking my place whether Plumpy says she is or not. It’s frustrating because whenever I bring it up to MY best friend, she just says, “stop being so jealous” or whatever. I don’t mind if they are best friends too, I just don’t want everyone to stop doing stuff with me. (which is happening.)
Good advice Moonstar. Maybe there should be an “Ask Moonstar” type of thing.
Josie that’s PERFECT! Moonstar gives the best advice and she’s never rude or mean, Moonstar rocks!
poor NATALIE???????????????????????????????????? i feel sorry for the one and only.
I think the same way.
why do you feel sorry for one and only? she is the one trying to keep sara from meeting any other friends. Plumpy is right, as they grow up, they will meet even more people to become friends with.
well thats the same way with me.
this is all very selfish One and Only, sara isnt only ur friend. let her branch out, get over it. you are being very selfish. try to be friend with both of them. i bet you have more than one friend, let sara hav more than one too. Natalie is probably nice person, just giv her a chance.
everybody, read every comment here. people, friends come and go. there will always be a friend who will come along and be there forever but they might not come for a few year. you could be like thirty before hey come. point is, friends come and go, but when one friend moves on, that just means there is another friend out there for you. don’t hang on to the past, look forward.