Dear Salley,
It’s your old dad with a big question: would you like to come and spend Thanksgiving with me? I would love to have you come out here for a few days. We can go to the museum, visit the family, and even go for ice cream every night after dinner. What do you think? I really hope you say yes.
Love,
Dad
Dear Dad,
Mom and I were planning on spending Thanksgiving here in Kinzville, but I guess I could ask her if I could go see you instead. We could always do Thanksgiving when I get back. I would like to see you, and all of the stuff you have planned sounds like so much fun! Let me just check with her and I’ll get back to you.
Love,
Salley
Dear Mom,
Dad just asked me if I could spend Thanksgiving at his house. I don’t like to bug you while you’re at work, but I think I should let him know if it’s OK with you or not. So…what do you think? Can I go and have Thanksgiving with dad?
Love,
Salley
Dear Salley,
I was planning on us having Thanksgiving together. I thought maybe you and I could go for a walk in the morning, and then do some crafts in the afternoon while we wait for dinner to cook. Ms. Cowoline invited us to come over for dessert at Cowabelle’s house and I said we would. I really don’t think we should change our plans now. I think you should stay in Kinzville for Thanksgiving, dear.
But, of course, it’s your decision. If you would rather go and spend Thanksgiving with your dad, just let me know.
Love,
Mom
Dear Diary,
Ugh, I’m having such a big problem! I was planning on spending Thanksgiving in Kinzville with my mom (like I usually do), but this year my dad asked if I could come and spend Thanksgiving with him. So I asked my mom if that was OK and she basically said that she had a ton of fun stuff planned for me and that if I really wanted to, I could go and see my dad. But…she just made me feel so guilty with her email!
I don’t know what I want to do. In a perfect world, both of my parents would spend Thanksgiving with me. But my parents can’t do that. So I guess it’s up to me to choose. Mom or dad? Which one do I want to spend the holiday with?
Love,
Salley
Poor Salley, what a horrible position your parents have put you in! And all without meaning to, I’ll bet! I think that Zeph317 & foxpaws are right on in their observations. And ponch3 has the solution. Talk to both of them! They don’t see what pressure they’ve put you under. You have to tell them or nobody will have a Happy Thanksgiving, especially you!
I think you should tell them both how you feel… then maybe “they” will grow up and find a solution to the problem:)
You should go with your dad
Aw Salley, it has to be really hard to have to choose to spend a Holiday with your Mom or Dad and not both. Is there any way your Mom and Dad and you all be together for Thanksgiving? Maybe your Dad could come take you out for the day while your Mom cooks and then all eat together and spend the night with her and go to Ms. Cowoline’s? My Mom and Dad are together but sometime my Dad was on call for work and would have to miss dinner. It’s only happened 3 times but was sad not to have him home. Maybe you can spend Thanksgiving and Friday with your Dad then spend the weekend with your Mom so it is even. Maybe ask your Mom not to cook and wait until you are home to have Thanksgiving with her. I wish your Mom and Dad could decide to spend the day together like my friend’s family does. Her Mom and Dad are even married with more kids but they all spend Holidays together and everyone has a great time together. Ask them if they could stop being mad with each other and spend the Holiday together for you. I hope things aren’t like this for your Christmas. :( No matter what I hope you have a great Holiday. Your Friend, Leilani Leila – LalaMoosh
You’re right, foxpaws. Good observation. Typically holiday sharing is agreed upon almost from the get-go. This family (and there will always be that family connection) needs to communicate for Salley’s sake!
I think both your dad and mom made some mistakes. I think your dad should have told your mom in advance that he was going to ask you about Thanksgiving. The fact that they no longer share a home doesn’t mean they don’t share a daughter they both love. They need to communicate for your sake. I think your mom did word her email to you in a way that put pressure on you not to accept your dad’s invitation; so I think they were both wrong, but only because they both love you. If you would like to celebrate Thanksgiving with your dad, don’t feel guilty, Salley. You have the right to enjoy both your parents and they’re the adults. They need to set themselves aside and think about you.
zeph317–I agree with you. The only thing that I would add is that Dad should have thought about asking earlier. This is awfully short notice for a basic family. For a one parent family, things have to be planned way early! Thank you. ♥♥♥foxpaws♥♥♥
I would go to your dad’s place Salley. You don’t see him often. You see your mom everyday and you could always do Thanksgiving with her when you got back. It’s your decision though.
You should spend time with your father. It is a tough decision and your mother will be upset if you choose your father over your mother. But, you live with your mother. You should be able to spend as much time with your father as his schedule allows.
Dear Salley, I know what your going thru. Maybe your mom would consider inviting your dad for Thanksgiving Day dinner, then, the three of you can talk about you spending one holiday with one and another holiday with the other. It won’t be easy, at first, but, it will work if both parents are on board. jennifer
@Chicago Made I don’t think they could do that, cause in one of the stories in KT they said their dad lived way in West kinzville, it would take awhile to drive there and back, and tiring, and also, in the story too they said that many times they had to cancel because her dad’s a busy bussiness man and had to go on trips and stuff… So I think she shouldn’t go.