Dear Plumpy,
A good friend of mine didn’t show up at my birthday party. She said that she had to visit her grandma, but she actually went to a different friend’s party. We’ve known each other since we were four, so my feelings are pretty hurt. She apologized and I said I accepted, but I just can’t get over it. Every time I see her, I’m still angry. What do I do?
- Confused Birthday Girl
Dear CBG,
This is a great time to talk about that old saying “forgive and forget.”
When you forgive someone, you let go of the hurt and anger that you felt. You replace it with understanding – or at least acceptance. Your friend messed up – she really hurt your feelings. She shouldn’t have lied to you.
BUT…she did apologize and you did accept.
Since you accepted, you need to let go of the anger. You need to try to forget about the fact that she missed your party, and focus on what kind of a friend she is right now. If she tells fibs often, or lets you down frequently, maybe it’s time for a chat. If this was a one-time thing, move on and focus on the things you like about your friendship.
Good luck.
Love,
Plumpy
my friend did the same thing and i talked to her and she said she was sorry. It was very hard to get over, and it hurts ALOT!
But you just have to get over it talk to her ask her why she did it i have 66 webkinz i had a party for all of them and my one
friend did the same thing every time! she said she was sorry and i forgave her now we are best friends
Don’t always forgive, yet NEVER forget. The same thing can happen again if you forget.
I HAD A FRIEND LIKE THAT ONCE SHE ALWAYS PUSHED ME AND LIED ABOUT THE THINGS I DID. SHE KEPT DOIN THAT SO I DECIDED TO TALK TO HER. WE AREN’T MAD AT EACH OTHER ANYMORE , BUT WE AREN’T THE CLOSEST FRIEND. WHAT’S THE POINT OF BEING MAD AT SOMEONE FOREVER
Hello, Confused Birthday Girl!
I have had many problems like that, too! When I have, I have told them how much I didn’t appreciate that, and tell them to think vice- versa. Ask them how much they woul like it, if you did that to them! Hopefully that will make them think about how much it hurt your feelings, and they won’t do it again!
P.S. I know you don’t know me, but I saw your Problem, and had a solution that clicked to me! Happy Birthday!
From,
Ella the hippo
dear plumpy,
my friends mom wouldn’t let her spend the night and yet my friends mom let her spend the night with another friend i was very upset and for 3 days my friend kept asking me if i was mad i said no but i kinda still was….
i forgave her because we have known each other since kindergarten, but I still am kinda mad
peace out plumpy GTG,
MonkeyGirl13 11 10
I have a friend that was at her house and invited me over, then i go over then when i get in the house a friend that we both hate asked if she could come over and she said yes. When i was still there! Now, maybe she was trying to be nice to her (she has had a leg problem all her life) or she was trying to make me want to leave. Which one do you think it is?
Thanks