Dear Plumpy,
A good friend of mine didn’t show up at my birthday party. She said that she had to visit her grandma, but she actually went to a different friend’s party. We’ve known each other since we were four, so my feelings are pretty hurt. She apologized and I said I accepted, but I just can’t get over it. Every time I see her, I’m still angry. What do I do?
- Confused Birthday Girl
Dear CBG,
This is a great time to talk about that old saying “forgive and forget.”
When you forgive someone, you let go of the hurt and anger that you felt. You replace it with understanding – or at least acceptance. Your friend messed up – she really hurt your feelings. She shouldn’t have lied to you.
BUT…she did apologize and you did accept.
Since you accepted, you need to let go of the anger. You need to try to forget about the fact that she missed your party, and focus on what kind of a friend she is right now. If she tells fibs often, or lets you down frequently, maybe it’s time for a chat. If this was a one-time thing, move on and focus on the things you like about your friendship.
Good luck.
Love,
Plumpy
If I were you I would just get over it it woudn’t be that bad.
It would accually be really bad, depending on how easily hurt you can get.
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OK..
well i have a friend and she sometimes is nice to me and sometimes not what should i do?
That happened to me once. Try to not spend a whole lot of time together, but every once in a while hang out. make sure she or he stays at a basic friend status, and NEVER moves up to BF or BFF
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I’m sorry about your friend. I have several friends that say I’m wonderful and good hearted but they always try to avoid me! I only have 2 friends that REALLY appreciate me! I invite them over but they NEVER invite me over! 1 of my friends promised to invite me to her bday party and she didn’t.
I think you might have to find some new friends. Tell your friends about how you feel and if they don’t get better or have a good excuse than find some new friends who appreciate you
That is called a fair weather friend.They are nice to you when they have no one else to play with and the rest of the time they are mean to you. I ended my friendships that were like that. I also do not continue friendships with liars.Liars will continue to lie forever it is like an addiction.I am always nice to my friends and do not deserve to be treated badly by mean people,liars or thieves.Love you all,the nice one
I have a friend like that. We’ve known each other since third grade and were best friends then. In fourth grade, she ran off with the so-called “popular girls” and so I left her alone and then when the “popular girl” told her to shove off in not so many words, she came running back to me, accusing me of ignoring her and wanting to be my friend again. The same happened in fifth grade, when we both started a new school, except this time was more extreme. We studied for exams together but she called me only when she needed something and never helped me in return. In sixth grade, I totally moved on to other people, and stopped studying with her. Then her grades dropped dramatically and she again ran off to this other girl because she wears “cool” clothes. And then she started being snappish with me and rude to me for no apparent reason. And it angered her even more when it didn’t have any effect on me and I gave it back to her as good as I got it. Now we’re both in seventh grade and though we’re still friends, it will never be the same as before. It’s sad, the effect popularity by style, which is always changing, can have on people.
This is very good advice, but it will take some time before you will feel better. Sorry this happened to you.
UGGG! I can’t go to my friend lollamomma’s party on webkinz :( !!! It won’t work! Every time i click on “GO TO PARTY!” It say’s “The Host of the party isn’t home! Please try again in a few minutes. Have any sugestions??? ~The frustrated kinzgal
First off maybe ask people on a DIFFRENT blog………..
Hi, kinzgal! I missed u at my party that wouldn’t work! I called Ganz but they couldn’t get it to go. They will work on it and said to try again next week. Oh well. Forgive and forget, right? Hahaha. We will have to hang out instead!! :)
no i do not
Poor person..
well ive had some thing like this happen to me :(
Nice story ..
I think it’s good to forgive but I never forget. I always know what they did to make sure they wont do it again. It’s so hard to forgive people for lying and other things that forgeting is jus impossible. You can never forget but you can forgive.
~~*Flower Power*~~
My thoughts exactly flower power.
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Yours Always,
KinzDragon♪ ♫
That happened to me too. But my friend kept doing that she kept lieing to my so she could go other places. Like one time I asked her if she wanted to go to the fair with me (she always wanted to go to the fair w/ me) but she lied and said she had to go to her dad’s birthday party but I called her dad to wish him a good b-day but he said it wasn’t his b-day. Then I found out she lied just to text her other friend all day on the couch! What do I do!?
Talk to her, ..
tell her she was wrong, and if she does it
again than don’t talk to her or invite her to
anything. Ignore her untill she says she was
wrong. ♥ Hope this advice works, but I bet the
one on the blog is much more better! :)
Forgive and forget! Remember that and hopefully problems will get better! If someone asks for
forgiveness, forgive them. You will feel a lot better when you do! Thats my (hopefully!) good advice!
Luv From LillyLuvie* :D
I SO AGREE!! and Don’t talk to her ever again till’ she says she’s sorry about the whole thing and don’t invite her to your party’s or sleepovers and if your friends ask say “oh she lied to me and my feelings got hurt ”
and if she does it again remove her out of your phone and move on.. i think you really seem nice and you didn’t need that to happen you been friends since FOUR!!!!! and that was mean that she did that and i think you need to have a talk with her about it…..and if she does again a few more time remove her off webkinz ( if she has a webkinz ) and your phone and all of that stuff
I hope i helped sincerely, lovepuppy88
I know I so agree just don’t have any hard feelings to the friend she was texting. Just completely avoid her. Other why use silent treatment. Until she says sorry and comes to your arrangements.
I’m sorry that happened, Moonlight mist. It breaks my heart when people lie. Have you told your friend how you feel? I know how you feel, because I’ve had lots of friends lie to me. Hope you and your friend make up!
My friend once lied to me and said she would invite me to her b-day party but then invited her other friend and then didn’t even have a party without telling anyone! And once she said she had to do her homework and went to the mall with her that other friend! And I’m still sad because I don’t know if she’s a good friend at all.
I had a friend about two years ago that lied to me and told my other friends bad stuff about me. She never did apologize to me. And im glad i am happy with the friends i have! :)
What i would do is say your a bad friend, and i got better people to hang out with ya couch potato!!!!!!
I agree with wyw65pqc, you have done the right thing and found new friends who I hope are are honest and ready to have fun,not someone who lies and sits on the couch txting.. Take Care and all the best :)
Good advie, Plumpster! (Plumpy)\\
-Always :-)
My friend lied to me like that too. But, I feel the same way about something else. My BFF told our principle something that I didn’t I got accused by my principle!! Now every time I look at my BFF, I remember that. Even though we ”madeup”, I still get mad at her for that day that hurt me even more than coppiers. And at school, I am not Moonstar so, not everyone like me, I have some enemies, some that seem to be close to me. -Moonstar◘◘◘
i can’t believe you’re bff would do that! i as your cousin would never do that i would just tell my mom! and then we would probably hang out !cookies and cream◘♣◘ to moonstar!◘◘
Hey, everyone! CandyHeart here! Great advice Plumpy!
Moonstar, you’ve got a friend request on the Summer Sensation forum, page 3. -*Dawnstar*
Hey KinzDragon!
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I usually don’t read the Dear Plumpys, but she is a good advice hippo. Add FifithePoodle1! :)