Dear Plumpy,
A good friend of mine didn’t show up at my birthday party. She said that she had to visit her grandma, but she actually went to a different friend’s party. We’ve known each other since we were four, so my feelings are pretty hurt. She apologized and I said I accepted, but I just can’t get over it. Every time I see her, I’m still angry. What do I do?
- Confused Birthday Girl
Dear CBG,
This is a great time to talk about that old saying “forgive and forget.”
When you forgive someone, you let go of the hurt and anger that you felt. You replace it with understanding – or at least acceptance. Your friend messed up – she really hurt your feelings. She shouldn’t have lied to you.
BUT…she did apologize and you did accept.
Since you accepted, you need to let go of the anger. You need to try to forget about the fact that she missed your party, and focus on what kind of a friend she is right now. If she tells fibs often, or lets you down frequently, maybe it’s time for a chat. If this was a one-time thing, move on and focus on the things you like about your friendship.
Good luck.
Love,
Plumpy
Dear Plumpy,
Hey, my problem is that my dad refuses to spend time with me and we sometimes have talks and it doesnt help. He always tells me to do the stuff he gets asked to do, do you have a solution?
Oh, I feel so bad for you and your friend. It must have hurt you very bad. I hope your friend comes to every party you host next time.
Me too noahkiddo. :0
Okaaaaayyyy….. Gigglemunster, you’re kinda creepin’ me out…….
how come????? lol
Nawwww how sadd
that story is sad but it happened to me before.
I am sorry your friend did that. My friends are usually pretty nice.
I have sevrel friends that I have known since i was 4-6. They all love it when i invite them to something. I have had to chosse to go one of my friends party`s last year. They were two awsome friends and Two awsome looking partys but i just chose netheir. I did not want to hurt etheir friends feelings. It was just not something i wanted to do but I oculd not go to eather
I couldn’t have said it better! She is right; let it all go!
Hi! If you read my name you know im happy! Im happy cause im gonna go to my grandma’s tomorrow!:) Im super excited.
cool that will be fun