This month, we’ll have Plumpy on hand to answer any pressing friendship questions you may have! Today Plumpy talks about compromise.
Dear Plumpy,
My best friend and I share a birthday (crazy, I know). We both want to have our parties on the same day, and we both want to invite the same people – which wouldn’t be a problem, if we could just agree on a theme and a location and have a shared party. My BFF wants to have a pool party – with an under-the-sea-theme. I can’t swim very well, so I’m totally NOT into this idea. I was thinking of having a sleepover with a movie night theme – but she doesn’t want to do that. Please help, Plumpy! We’ve been fighting non-stop and our birthday plans are tearing us apart!
- Fighting For Fun
Dear FFF,
I think you and your BFF need to sit down and talk about this – calmly. Why not choose a neutral location (not your house or her house – maybe the park or schoolyard) and try to figure out a theme that BOTH of you like.
Because you share a birthday and want to invite the same friends, it makes sense to have a shared party. And since you’re best friends, you must have SOMETHING in common. Maybe you both like arts and crafts? Sports? Dancing? Music? If you can think of just ONE thing that you’ve got in common, you can build a party around it. For example, if you both LOVE getting all dressed up, you could have a makeover or spa party. If you both love to cook, you could have a cooking party. If you both love nature, you could go on a scavenger hunt. In this case, it makes sense to compromise; you’ll have more fun together, and your friends will be thankful to not have to choose which party they attend!
If, after lots of talking, you can’t come to a compromise about the theme, maybe compromise on the date; if you want to have your party on the day of your birthday, maybe your friend could have hers the day after (or before).
No matter what, you and your BFF need to figure this one out – birthdays should be tons of fun, not tons of stress.
Good luck & (early) happy birthday!
Love,
Plumpy
Hello! My daughter was on Webkinz New and saw this article, I plan parties for a living, so she ran to me and said, “Mommy, come look! It’s your job!” And hearing this, I decided to help you out. The layout is simple, pool party for those who can swim well, and outdoor activities for those who can’t, then all the guest’s spend the night at one of the girls houses and watch movies!
Why not just have a sleepover with an undersea theme? I mean one wanted a sleepover and a movie theme, and one wanted a pool party with an undersea theme. Why not just make a sleepover with an undersea theme! Or just have sleepover spa thing! i’d be totally cool!
Dear Garden Girl,
Hardly anyone likes me either because i am mature for my age. The best thing you can do is try and find a few people with the branded title of” Weirdo” or “Ugly” or some other people that stick out from the rest. You may find that you have the same interests!!! If that doesn’t work, enroll in summer camps with lots of new people! You may find a fast friend that cares about you enough to keep up a relationship!!!
Live, Laugh & Love
I don’t swim well either, but I still like swimming. Maybe, sinc that is what your friend likes, do that around late afternoon for her, then take it inside and have a sleepover and movie night, and tie them in by adding oceany type movies, like Flipper, or you could watch Veggietales, Jonah and the Pirate movie would be good. Hope this helps!
i agree with plumpy. good advice!!!! (: