This month, we’ll have Plumpy on hand to answer any pressing friendship questions you may have! Today Plumpy talks about compromise.
Dear Plumpy,
My best friend and I share a birthday (crazy, I know). We both want to have our parties on the same day, and we both want to invite the same people – which wouldn’t be a problem, if we could just agree on a theme and a location and have a shared party. My BFF wants to have a pool party – with an under-the-sea-theme. I can’t swim very well, so I’m totally NOT into this idea. I was thinking of having a sleepover with a movie night theme – but she doesn’t want to do that. Please help, Plumpy! We’ve been fighting non-stop and our birthday plans are tearing us apart!
- Fighting For Fun
Dear FFF,
I think you and your BFF need to sit down and talk about this – calmly. Why not choose a neutral location (not your house or her house – maybe the park or schoolyard) and try to figure out a theme that BOTH of you like.
Because you share a birthday and want to invite the same friends, it makes sense to have a shared party. And since you’re best friends, you must have SOMETHING in common. Maybe you both like arts and crafts? Sports? Dancing? Music? If you can think of just ONE thing that you’ve got in common, you can build a party around it. For example, if you both LOVE getting all dressed up, you could have a makeover or spa party. If you both love to cook, you could have a cooking party. If you both love nature, you could go on a scavenger hunt. In this case, it makes sense to compromise; you’ll have more fun together, and your friends will be thankful to not have to choose which party they attend!
If, after lots of talking, you can’t come to a compromise about the theme, maybe compromise on the date; if you want to have your party on the day of your birthday, maybe your friend could have hers the day after (or before).
No matter what, you and your BFF need to figure this one out – birthdays should be tons of fun, not tons of stress.
Good luck & (early) happy birthday!
Love,
Plumpy
Where do we ask Plumpy for friendship question because I have a very sad problem. Here it is:
Dear Plumpy,
I have no friends and feel very left out. No one wants to be my friend because I already got the title of “Weirdo”. A. How do I make friends and still be me?
-Lonely
Hey, I know I am not Plumpy but can I help?
Ok, so try to find a group of kids that share the same things as you. Maybe you like science, find people who like science too! How did you get that ”tittle”? Make being a weirdo something cool! Be a good sport about it, people always avoid someone who slunks and is a bad sport or always in low spirits. -Moosntar*
Dear Garden Girl,
I almost cried reading your story, I’m not plumpy, and I’m really sorry about your situation, but I suggest that you try to find anyone else who’s been branded with the title weirdo and talk to them, and when you really think about it, it shouldn’t really matter what others think about you, as long as you have a couple of good friends. You just have to put yourself out there and find someone.
That is way better advice then mine! I am not good at giving advice about not having any friends because I have alot of friends, just follow Rachel’s advice! -Moonstar*
Dear Garden Girl, that is really sad! Find someone else that enjoys the same things as you. If someone else is considered a weirdo, try to be friends with them! Like Moonstar said, be proud to be a weirdo! It usually turns out that they are jealous of you!
Hope you make some friends!
Garden girl remember this…some of my wierdest friends are the most fun! What may seem to make you wierd in others eyes while you are still young may be what attracts others to you as you get older. Wierd is just another word for different, and different can be great. As long as you are a good and kind person you will do well. Do not try to be something you are not, because who you are is just great. Trust me, eventually you will meet someone who is just as “wierd” as you and you will become great friends.
We are always trying to fit in, especially when we are young. If we stop trying so hard what will happen is not that we come to fit in, but that because we are ourselves and relaxed about it, and that exudes a confidence. And because of that confidence, even if you wear rabbit ears on your head………people will be attracted to you. The first step to gain confidence is not to care so much about what others think of you, but to learn to like you…. and like magic others will like you to.
More power to you and peace out.
Ok, Garden Girl, listen to that advice! You are good at giving advice for friends! Weird actually is another word for different! Different is no bad, it is super good! It means you have your own personnality and your an individual! It is true that we are always trying to fit in, stop trying so hard! And, school is to learn so don’t pay attention to what others think of you! Who you actually are is great, don’t change that! -Moonstar*
Dear Moonstar, Rachel, Nightbreeze, and Satzuki,
Thank you so much for your words of kindness. It is good to know that there is still caring people out there. You are all right. School is for learning and not about what other kids think. Maybe people are just jealous of me. Maybe wierd is another word for different. All of you proved that there are still people like me out there. I now know that school is the main thing that counts. Maybe I may find a friend one day but, my learning is all that counts. You proved to me that I should enjoy life when I am young and not let other people interfere. Once again, thank you very much for being very caring. may help others in need. -Garden Girl-
Plumpy,
you and your friend need a comprimise try watching a movie about under water.Or learn to swim, make it equal for you and your friend. Hope it helps,
Natalie
The way we handle this, (for twins) The oldest twin has a party first, on the day before the actual date. The day of the birthday we do a movie together, and have a family day. The day after the birthdate is for the younger twin. In this case it’s in the same family, but it would be much easier and less expensive for friends to throw two parties.
help! how do i write to plumpy!!!?????
why dont you two put the two together a swimming sleepover party you know swim then sleep that would be my idea or maybe go to the nearest park and do a game or 2 like a pinata and something like balloon darts then a horse back riding animal impressions uh maybe a nature walk hide and seek a drawing contest then when everybody leaves you and your pal go back to either your house or his/her house and sleep over
Do people read my comments and like them ?!?!?!?…………………. because i don’t know
Please Respond
-CIAO ;)
Lol sure!
Um…sure…maybe…well…OKAY LIPSTICK YOU DON’T NEED TO KNOW!!!
do u like the molly the pig character?
Wow, that would be tough! Good tips, Plumpy!
That’s a great idea Plumpy. My best friend and I do have a lot of things in common like playing Webkinz!
Plumpy, you did a great job answering that question :) I love your glasses Plumpy!! I have been looking for them everywhere!!!
Hmm…. let me think. Well, they could have a pool party in the afternoon and then a sleepover. What do you think?
Interesting.
What they SHOULD do is have a pool party/movie night! Then they can have the movie night inside, and if you want to swim you have that be an choice! Anyone agree? :cool: ;) :)
i totally agree
I think they should swim during the day and celebrate one girls birthday, during the night they should watch movies and celebrat the other girl’s birthday. It is one party and double the fun. Both girls get what they want.
yah i like bailey’s idea better.
my friend and i’s parties are three days apart so we always work out our parties so that they are just on different days, mine mine could b friday and hers could b saturday. that way we can hav two different parties but both celebrate our bdays.