Dear Plumpy,
Sara and I have been best friends since kindergarten. We see each other every single day and she’s pretty much like my sister. Or she WAS, until Natalie moved in. Natalie is Sara’s new neighbor – and now it seems like she’s her BFF too! Ever since Natalie arrived, Sara has been hanging out with her more and more. Last week, Sara and I were going to go to a movie – and she brought NATALIE along with her! I miss my best friend and I want her back. How do I get rid of Natalie?
- The One and Only
Dear TOO,
I’ve got some news you probably won’t want to hear – you can’t get rid of Natalie – nor should you try. You didn’t say anything about Natalie being mean or snobby or anything like that, so I’m going to assume she’s a nice girl. If you trust Sara’s judgment (and you should, she’s your best friend), she probably saw a good person in Natalie and decided to befriend her. Why not give Natalie a chance? You might find that you have a lot in common with her, too. You might just make yourself another good friend.
If you ever want to do something with Sara (and Sara only), be polite and ask Sara if she could just come by herself – tell her it’s best friend time and you just want to hang out with her. If Sara is as awesome as you say, she’ll definitely understand.
One more thing: Natalie isn’t taking your place. She’s her own person and will have her own friendship with Sara, and that doesn’t change YOUR friendship with Sara. As you and Sara get older, you’re going to meet more and more friends – and that’s good! You can always keep in touch with each other and stay friends forever – while also having other pals to hang out with.
Good luck!
Love,
Plumpy
My best friend was taken away form me also. I’m really sorry.
That is really cool. I feel that way a lot. I’d rather not talk about it.
great advice! i had a best friend that had 2 other best friends besides me. all 4 of us became great friends. i am still close to my best friend-50 years later. keep the communications open. it’s nice to have more than 1 close friend. my best friend taught me that!
I think Moonstar was right.
I had a problem like that and my friendship blew up!
Last year I was jealous of my friend’s friend but once I got in a class with the girl, we were BFFs Now I hang out with her ALL the time
scottiedog101 you sound a lot like my bff
How do i ask a question to Plumpy?
if your trying to get rid of her she might be trying to get rid of you
I have a friend in a different state and she hasn’t emailed me forever, I’ve tried and tried to get her but, no luck, I feel like crying. I miss her soooooooooo much. She is my total BFF.
Scottiedog101
you sound a lot like my friend that i can’t email
I agree you should befriend her and still have Sarah as a bff.