Dear Plumpy,
Sara and I have been best friends since kindergarten. We see each other every single day and she’s pretty much like my sister. Or she WAS, until Natalie moved in. Natalie is Sara’s new neighbor – and now it seems like she’s her BFF too! Ever since Natalie arrived, Sara has been hanging out with her more and more. Last week, Sara and I were going to go to a movie – and she brought NATALIE along with her! I miss my best friend and I want her back. How do I get rid of Natalie?
- The One and Only
Dear TOO,
I’ve got some news you probably won’t want to hear – you can’t get rid of Natalie – nor should you try. You didn’t say anything about Natalie being mean or snobby or anything like that, so I’m going to assume she’s a nice girl. If you trust Sara’s judgment (and you should, she’s your best friend), she probably saw a good person in Natalie and decided to befriend her. Why not give Natalie a chance? You might find that you have a lot in common with her, too. You might just make yourself another good friend.
If you ever want to do something with Sara (and Sara only), be polite and ask Sara if she could just come by herself – tell her it’s best friend time and you just want to hang out with her. If Sara is as awesome as you say, she’ll definitely understand.
One more thing: Natalie isn’t taking your place. She’s her own person and will have her own friendship with Sara, and that doesn’t change YOUR friendship with Sara. As you and Sara get older, you’re going to meet more and more friends – and that’s good! You can always keep in touch with each other and stay friends forever – while also having other pals to hang out with.
Good luck!
Love,
Plumpy
i am so sorry Plumpy maybe you
could get a new best friend and show
her how it like to be like that and then
probaly she will come back to you
when she see u guys together
I am so sorry 4 the 1 and only….. I am so sorry for that poor girl… :-(
moonstar u have a pont but plummy does to i mean one and only trust me this has happed to me 2 and what i did is i talked to my friend about it and me and her spend lots of time without her friend but we all hang out sometimes 2 i still have my best friend plus she is still friends with her friend and things are okay -kitkat-
Dear Plumpy,
My friend Adam invited me to his sleep-over yesterday. I thought that was awesome because he’s never had a sleep-over before. I asked him who else was going and he said that it was just me so far. At the end the day, I asked my other friend Danny if Adam had told him abou the sleep-over. Danny said that Adam didn’t tell him about it yet, so i figured he just forgot. The next day, Adam told me he was only allowed to pick one friend- and he picked ME! Later in the day, Adam said that he would tell Danny about the sleep-over, but he never did! I really want Danny to come to the sleep over. Is there a solution to this problem?
-Squidy2008
There is really nothing that you can do. It was wrong to tell someone else about the sleepover if you arn’t even sure if they are going to be able to go! You don’t know what Adams Sleepover and friend policy is. This is Adams sleepover and he can do whatever he wants with it, do whatever and invite whoeer. If that means only you, then let that be. Hopefully, Danny won’t be offended. But there is nothing you can do. -Moonstar♥♥♥
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I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM , I HAVE AS FRIEND HERE NAME IS MOLLY SHE AND HER HAVE BEEN FRIENDS SINCE KINDERGARTEN BUT IT ALL CHANGED WHEN MY OTHER FRIEND MIRANDA GOT IN THE SAME CLASS AS US .THEY DO PRETTY MUCH EVRYTHING TOGETHER . THEY EXCLUDE PEOPLE BUT THEY DONT EVEN NO IT . NOW I JUST HANG MOSTLY WITH MY FRIEND KATHLEEN
That’s sad, I sort of know how you feel. I had been going to my BFF’s group, and she never seemed to want to talk to me, it was almost like she was trying to avoid me. I don’t know if it was something I said, or what, I mean if it was, I didn’t mean to offend her, and I’m sure she knows that. But my trouble isn’t another girl. Maybe she was just having a bad day those few days. Anyway, that is really sad, and I think you should tell Sara how you feel, you know, like she’s pushing you away, and I’m sure she’ll understand and try to spend more time with you, but you need to talk to Natalie, too, and try and be friend. Who knows? Maybe you’ll and up as a Best Friend trio! Wouldn’t that be nice? I’m sure it will all work out.
I had a really good friend one time that got SUPER jealous whenever I would hang out with other people. She wasn’t my BEST friend, but she said I was her best friend and I was really her ONLY friend. I felt really bad for her so I just stopped mentioning things I did with other people, even if I had a really good time. Thats NOT the way a close friendship should work. You should be able to talk to your best friend about anything. If Sara is really your best friend, The One And Only, then you should talk to her about it and then hopefully she’ll understand how you feel. Maybe Sara doesn’t even realize how her hanging out with Natalie all the time makes you feel. I hope things get better between you and I hope that maybe this advice could possibly help, if even a little bit. Good luck!
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I agree with Plumpy. Imagin if you just moved in, and met a girl (Sara) who was really nice and lived next door! Natalie probably has no idea that she is making you unhappy, and perhaps you should try and befriend her too! I used to have one best friend. Then she started hanging out with another girl. I was upset for a while, but then I realized that maybe that girl was nice, and my friend usually has good judgement on who is nice. So I made friends with the girl, and now she is one of my BFF’s too. Try to see things from Sara and Natalies point of view, and if making friends dosn’t work, tell Sara how you feel, and maybe she can help, and she willdefinately understand.